Resign as General Manager of the Universe

Does it seem that in your corner of the world nothing ever gets done unless you do it yourself? Are you so busy doing everything related to your work and to your home that you have no time to spend on the person who matters the most? Isn’t it time that you resigned from the self appointed post of General Manager of the Universe and relaxed? You matter! Your health matters and your priority should be to look after yourself before you set out to look after the whole wide world. It is always important to heal your life before you begin to heal the world.

Stop doing everything on your own

You are not a super hero who must be proficient in all things and run around saving the world as well. You are a human being with limited time in the day and it is important that you focus on the important things in life, while delegating away duties that anyone else can handle. For instance you don’t need to be the person to drive your kids to school and pick them up every day. You can get them to take the school bus. You don’t need to cook, clean and pick up the groceries personally. You can hire someone else to do this and supervise them to see that they do it right.

Identify the places you need help

In every day that you spend running around trying to get the whole long list of things on your to-do list done, there are at least 30% things that can be easily handled by other people. Be it someone you hire to help you with your job or business, or the loving family members who are already part of your circle of trust. All you need to do is take a long hard look at the list and pick up the things that you don’t have to do personally all the time. Then figure out who is the best person to handle this task. It would be wonderful if someone else could step in and lend you their support, but it is not going to happen until you make it happen.

How can your family and friends support you?

The easiest way to get support is to ask for it. Don’t convince yourself that you will be refused just because you think that the person you are going to ask for help will say no. Most often people are pleasantly surprised that when they ask someone for help they are more than willing to do so. Make sure that you ask them for help in the best way possible! Plus don’t be rigid about the help that you expect them to give. Remember the idea is to make life easier for yourself, not dictate what others around you should or should not do. Show them your list and ask them to pick what they can manage to help you with rather than telling them what you want done.

Remember you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar!