Do You Have Irrational, Irritating and Impossible People in Your Life?

There is just no way to deal with them. To make them understand your actions requires more energy than it would take to climb Mount Everest. All they ever want is to have confrontations that lead to drama and high strung emotions. Each time you try to talk rationally with them within minutes it seems like someone threw away the script of the play and now you are all just shouting louder and louder so that you can attempt to make your point. 

If you have finished shaking your head at the thought of who the above description brought to your mind, you can now think about learning how to deal with them more effectively. Not making them let you become as crazy and sulky as they usually do, is going to take some effort on your part. However, that effort will be rewarded twice fold as you will not only get rid of these crazy makers, but you will also likely end up with deeper and more meaningful relationships.

Think About Your Reaction

How you react to their behaviour is the payoff that they are looking for. If they attack you, you get defensive. Then you decide you haven’t done anything to deserve such treatment and you begin to get angry. At the same time there is a little scared part of you wondering how to get out of this situation. Soon you are slipping into irrational slugging with them and even though you hate acting in such a manner there is full blown drama with yelling, cussing and crying in progress.

Change the Reaction to Change the Conversation

Now rewind that tape and imagine yourself back in the same situation. The same person makes the same snarky comment which usually acts like your trigger. However this time you decide not to give them the reaction that they expect. You stay calm and focused, nod your head and do not defend yourself against their imagined slights. Then if they leave, great. If they begin to escalate their behaviour, it’s time for you to physically leave the spot. Pretend you need to drink water or visit the bathroom, just make the excuse and get out of the way before the true tirade can begin.

Be Aware of Their Triggers

Sometimes a simple action can help you avoid setting off their triggers. Make time to pay attention to what causes their crazy spells or personal attacks. Become aware of the consequences of your own actions and make a conscious effort to curb these bouts of degenerative dramatics that leave you feeling humiliated, angry and with a churning in your stomach. Stay in control of the situation by not losing your cool and thinking rationally. This can be really tough initially, but as you continue using the tactic it will become easier.

Remember your poise and dignity is in your hands. They are also your best line of defense when accosted by an irrational, irritating and impossible person. 

Affirm to Yourself – “I stand in my full power with love and wisdom.”