You Are Stronger Than You Think

Ever so often we stop ourselves from taking the next step forward in our life. Be if related to career, relationships or even a simple hobby that we have wanted to pick up for ages, there is a fear that keeps us standing where we are instead of reaching out to grab more.  We don’t even realize the depth of this fear, and at times we have not even consciously acknowledged it. This is a paralyzing fear that makes us think that the way things are seem fine, so why should we rock the boat by asking for more. And do we even deserve some more?

Self Doubt is always greater where there is less Self Love. When you can look at yourself in the mirror and honestly tell yourself that you love and approve of yourself, then you are sure that you will be able to express this love for yourself in the right manner. By giving yourself the respect you deserve, by doing things that you feel like you should. You are never weak, you are only doubting your strength to take on your new demons. Sometimes it is just the thought of failing that holds us immobilized, but if you never begin how are you ever going to succeed or fail?

When you feel the world is crashing in on you, remember the words of A.A. Milne.  “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” 

Think about it, what is the one project that you want to take on at work that you feel you may not to justice to? What is the one relationship that you want to improve, which you know can be better than it is today? What is the one hobby that you have always wanted to participate in but thought was too frivolous to waste your time on? What is the book that you have been dying to write all about? There are so many desires hidden in your soul. Find one today and examine it. Ask yourself why you have not done something for this desire to come true?

There is no one and no situation in the world that you cannot face on your own steam. All you need is a firm conviction in your mind that what you are doing is right for you. That it is not going to harm anyone else and that you deserve to be rewarded with the very best that life has to offer. Once you believe in your own abilities, trust your own talent, and take charge of your ambitions, there is nothing that can possibly hold you back.

Affirm to yourself – “I am healthy and strong today. I have all the information and knowledge I need to make the right choices to live a happy and content life.”

Do You Have Irrational, Irritating and Impossible People in Your Life?

There is just no way to deal with them. To make them understand your actions requires more energy than it would take to climb Mount Everest. All they ever want is to have confrontations that lead to drama and high strung emotions. Each time you try to talk rationally with them within minutes it seems like someone threw away the script of the play and now you are all just shouting louder and louder so that you can attempt to make your point. 

If you have finished shaking your head at the thought of who the above description brought to your mind, you can now think about learning how to deal with them more effectively. Not making them let you become as crazy and sulky as they usually do, is going to take some effort on your part. However, that effort will be rewarded twice fold as you will not only get rid of these crazy makers, but you will also likely end up with deeper and more meaningful relationships.

Think About Your Reaction

How you react to their behaviour is the payoff that they are looking for. If they attack you, you get defensive. Then you decide you haven’t done anything to deserve such treatment and you begin to get angry. At the same time there is a little scared part of you wondering how to get out of this situation. Soon you are slipping into irrational slugging with them and even though you hate acting in such a manner there is full blown drama with yelling, cussing and crying in progress.

Change the Reaction to Change the Conversation

Now rewind that tape and imagine yourself back in the same situation. The same person makes the same snarky comment which usually acts like your trigger. However this time you decide not to give them the reaction that they expect. You stay calm and focused, nod your head and do not defend yourself against their imagined slights. Then if they leave, great. If they begin to escalate their behaviour, it’s time for you to physically leave the spot. Pretend you need to drink water or visit the bathroom, just make the excuse and get out of the way before the true tirade can begin.

Be Aware of Their Triggers

Sometimes a simple action can help you avoid setting off their triggers. Make time to pay attention to what causes their crazy spells or personal attacks. Become aware of the consequences of your own actions and make a conscious effort to curb these bouts of degenerative dramatics that leave you feeling humiliated, angry and with a churning in your stomach. Stay in control of the situation by not losing your cool and thinking rationally. This can be really tough initially, but as you continue using the tactic it will become easier.

Remember your poise and dignity is in your hands. They are also your best line of defense when accosted by an irrational, irritating and impossible person. 

Affirm to Yourself – “I stand in my full power with love and wisdom.”

Love Yourself and Love Your Partner

With Valentine’s Day being a part of the month, it is only natural that the focus is on creating an even better version of your relationship with your partner. No matter if you are already in a good place, things can always improve. Or if you are struggling with some conflict, you can use these tips and tricks to ensure that you begin to love yourself and in doing so also love your partner even more. As always intention is the key when you begin to manifest with the Law of Attraction, and your intention is very clear – to enhance your relationship with your significant other.

Start With Laughter

Think of things that make the two of you laugh. When was the last time you shared that joyful and infectious energy with each other? If you can laugh at your own self and each other’s antics, even better. Don’t become too serious about everything in life. Remember things can change anytime. So accept the current situation and find something that the two of you can laugh about together. Sometimes simply watching a comedy on television together can help ease out the tension between the two of you.

Honestly is Truly the Best Policy

Being able to trust each other is vital for the health of your relationship. Make sure that you are always honest with your significant other. Express your true feelings with love and compassion, not in anger and frustration. The same things can be conveyed in different manners, chose your way wisely. Plus give your partner the opportunity to honestly share their feelings with you as well. A healthy relationship is never a one way street. Both of you need to be honest with each other, all the time. This is a must. It is just not negotiable any other way.

Communicate All the Time

In the day to day hassles of living, one forgets to communicate the more important aspects. Express your love each day in at least one way that your partner recognizes and acknowledge your appreciation when they do the same. Think about the triggers that set you off fighting and discuss them rationally. Try and find reasonable compromises for such issues so that it is not always a session of “he said…” and “she said…” Listen when the other person is speaking so that you understand where they are coming from on an issue.

Take Out Time for Romance

It is so easy to ignore romance, but it will really cost you the best part of your relationship if you do so. Do simple romantic things, make silly gestures, send love related messages, blow kisses in the hallway. Take the time to rekindle love with a date night at fixed intervals, monthly is good, weekly is even better. Make the time to connect intimately without the rest of the family intruding. Open up to each other about hopes and fears, share dreams, celebrate successes and work through failures. Take the time to romance your partner with flowers, chocolates, wine and food.

Affirmation – “ I am in a loving relationship filled with trust and respect.”

Simple Strategies to Boost Your Relationships

One of the most talked about issues that people would like to improve is relationships. Sometimes its intimate and close relations like that of spouse, parents, children, et al can do with improvements. Our relationships are an important part of how we define and see our own selves.  When we have happy, healthy, nurturing relationships our lives are more enriched and filled with satisfaction. Here are some simple strategies that can be used to boost any relationship. 

Appreciation

By simply acknowledging the fact that you appreciate some quality, trait, behaviour pattern, or action taken by a loved one, you are on the path top generating a very positive relationship with them.  If you create a pattern of appreciation and gratitude it promotes more positive interactions between the two of you.  Think how much you would enjoy being appreciated for each little think you do for a loved one, and begin to appreciate the little things that they do for you.

Understanding

There is nothing a person wants more than to be understood. Are you constantly being annoyed by your loved one. By listening to your loved one’s rational and reasons for certain behaviours, you will be able to put away your irritations. Think of how many times you have said the words, “I don’t understand why you thought doing this would help.” Or “What did you think you were doing?” Simple communication helps in understanding a person.

Acceptance

The next step is of course to accept what your loved one does. Once you understand why they behave in a certain manner, you may not always agree with them. Still you need to accept that it is the way they act because it is the way they need to. This acceptance of a person goes a long way in establishing a loving and trust filled bond.

Nurturing

It is not enough to merely be a by stander. Once you have accepted the person, you must also put some time and effort into developing a stronger relationship with them. You need to nurture a relationship with a person just as you would nourish a plant you are growing with sunlight and water. Not to mention the occasional serving of fertilizer. Yes, you quite literally have to put up with some BS to nurture the relationship.

Repairing

As with every aspect of our lives sometimes things will go wrong, get broken or fall apart. That’s where you need to step up and begin repairing the damage done to the relationship. It takes two to play ball but if you can learn to forgive, get rid of your ego and be willing to give it a shot, so will the other person.

Growing Together

Both parties will make mistakes, but both also have the option of learning from said mistakes and making the relationship bond stronger. Remember what we create within is mirrored in our existence. So learn and grow together. Figure out what works for the two of you. Each relationship is unique and you have to figure out the best way to keep things on an even keel.

Affirmation – “All my relationships are filled with love, trust and mutual respect.”

Making Sense of Toxic Relationships

We are all nice people. We like to think that we mean no harm to anyone around us, so we get puzzled and bewildered when someone in our circle is belligerent and rude. In each relationship all we wish to do is be heard, understood and appreciated. Unfortunately we are very often disappointed in the way some people respond to us.  We end up wondering why such toxic people are part of our lives. No one in their right minds will attract such people, so it falls to reason that we need to do something to fix our mindset.

Your Relationships are a Reflection of Your Beliefs

Do you have a poor self image of yourself? Do you feel that you are not deserving of what a perfect relationship is defined by? Everything in your life is a direct manifestation of your own thoughts. You may say that you cannot control the behavior of so and so person, but in truth you do. That person is reacting to you the way you have willed them to react. We don’t take responsibility for what we have done. We give away our power and pretend that we never had it in the first place. Sometimes we even enjoy playing a victim. You need to accept that every relationship that you find toxic is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself in context with the specific person.

Create the Perfect Relationship with Yourself to Manifest it with Others

The idea behind having perfect relationships with everyone else is to ensure that you have a perfect relationship with yourself. If you find forging relationships frustrating, challenging and heartbreaking, perhaps you do not understand what you are looking for yourself. When you understand and love yourself, you are in a better position to figure out your fears.  Only then can you accept yourself unconditionally and then move on to accepting others in your life. Everyone who comes into your life with a challenging relationship is there to teach you something new about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses.  

Take Back the Power to Create Your Perfect Relationships

As you think, so it shall be. No one but you are to praise for your perfect relationships and no one but you are to blame for your toxic relationships. If you accept the good in yourself you will also attract good people, but till you resolve your issues of fear, anger and frustration, you will continue to attract people who raise these issues for you all though the relationship. The power to love yourself is in your own hands. Unconditional love for yourself will result in the Law of Attraction bringing you relationships with people who give you unconditional love as well. Reclaim the power to make your toxic relationships terminate. Instead begin fresh relationships with these same people coming from a space of love and light.

Affirm to yourself: “I give and receive love, joy and respect in all my relationships.”

Are You Feeling Unappreciated?

Each of us relies on other people in our lives to help us feel loved, wanted and appreciated. We wait for others to heal our lives. Unfortunately in many cases we feel that the other person in the relationship is not appreciating the effort and actions we take. This results in a little pity party that we invite ourselves to. Here we begin to feel bad for ourselves and start blaming the other person for not doing more than they already do. 

This is where the downwards emotional spiral begins. To stem this emotional whirlpool you need to take charge of your emotions. This is the point you need to check in consciously and ask yourself, if I am unhappy with the way things are right now what can I do to change them? Here is a simple exercise to help you find a balance in your relationships. 

Creative Visualization

When you have some free time sit down peacefully and close your eyes. Now concentrate on your breathing till you feel calm and settled. From this seat of peace and tranquility think of the person who does not seem to appreciate you the way you wish to be appreciated. Think about the last situation involving this person that caused you to get upset. Feel the emotions that swept through you, acknowledge them, and ask them to leave your energy system.

Now think about different ways that you could have handled this situation where the end results would be you feeling happy and loved. Think of the words that you and the other person could have spoken. Create actions that you could have taken and imagine what reactions the other person would have had. You can use this for more than one situation or person. Use this visualization as often as you like, just consciously move from negative to positive energy.

Understand that Perfection is a Myth

Very often we get influenced by media blasted images of true love, and perfect relationships. These unnaturally happy images in our head make us feel that our current relationships are not good. Each individual is flawed, yes you are not perfect either. Then how can you expect a relationship involving two people to be perfect all the time. There will be ups and downs in the relationship based on what each individual is going through in their personal lives.

Accept that life is constantly changing and that we can never hope to have absolute control over anything but our own reactions. Change the reactions you give to others and the way they feel about you will also change. So be the difference you want to see. If you want others to appreciate you, tell them that you love it when they do something and  appreciate it. No one is out to vindictively spoil your day by not appreciating the food you cooked, the work report you submitted or the gift you gave someone. 

When you do something nice for a person, smile and send out positive energy to them. Then you can receive the same positive energy back from the universe multiplied many times. So if you want to be appreciated by others, start appreciating them first. The rest will follow as naturally as the Law of Attraction works its magic into your life.