Several Reasons Prevent You from Living the Life You Want

There is a major prevalence of dissatisfaction among people today. No matter what stage of life they are at, be it a student in a college, a corporate employee, a self employed entrepreneur or a housewife who takes care of the home. Everyone is struggling with issues of low self esteem that do not allow them to live the life they want to. Even when no one is physically holding them back from living their dreams and achieving new ambitions, their very thoughts hold them back from scaling new heights.

1. Self Care is not Selfish

Most of us as reluctant to take the time out to do more of ourselves. We argue we don’t have the time or resources to pamper ourselves. We lie to ourselves and to the world. Lying doesn't take us anywhere but still we lie and for some, it becomes a habit. Instead acknowledge that you can take that art, dance, music, or photography class. You can scrape the money and time required for it if you put your full attention to it. If you take care of yourself, your needs, your dreams, you are not suddenly turning into a selfish person.

2. Our schedule does not reflect our true priorities

There is an exercise that I did in a time management class which asked us to represent our day with a circle, then divide it up based on the number of hours we pursued certain activities. The first time I drew my time wheel I was amazed at the huge slots of hours that I wasting in my 12 hour functional day. How much time do you spend on trivial activities during the day that do no matter? How much time to you spend on activities that you consider your true priorities? Found the imbalance, now fix it!

3. Adrenaline has become our main choice of fuel

We can’t sit still anymore as we believe that a person who is not on the go always, is wasting time. We want to be productive even at the cost of our health and relationships. That surge of adrenaline pumping through our bodies has become our addiction. We want to feel that high when we rush from one place to the other. There is no place to slow down and think about what we actually want from life. Until you do that, you are never going to live the life you want.

4. Drained by people, places and things

Think about the energy vampires in your life. The people who want to tell you all their troubles and listen to them whining when you have better things to do. The places where nothing ever gets done on time and you have to visit them a couple of times before you make even the most rudimentary of progress. The things that need to be repaired, but you keep putting off and struggling with. All these are draining your energy and preventing you from living the life you deserve.

5. Can’t afford it

Money is a major concern for all of us in the material world that we are living in. Most of us believe that there isn’t enough money to go around and this lie actually becomes the truth of your life. Don't be a perpetual liar. It ruins everything like a low death. Be firm with yourself when you think negatively about money. Tell yourself you can afford the new purchase that you want to make. It’s all a matter of faking it till you make it. Trust me, money will flow in where none was expected!

Build a Support System that you can trust and you can live the life you dream of. Another mistake many of us make is not paying attention to spiritual well being. Just as important as it is to have a physically healthy body , it is important to have good emotional health and that is where a spiritual bent of mind makes a huge difference! Love yourself and heal the world!

Love Yourself and Love Your Partner

With Valentine’s Day being a part of the month, it is only natural that the focus is on creating an even better version of your relationship with your partner. No matter if you are already in a good place, things can always improve. Or if you are struggling with some conflict, you can use these tips and tricks to ensure that you begin to love yourself and in doing so also love your partner even more. As always intention is the key when you begin to manifest with the Law of Attraction, and your intention is very clear – to enhance your relationship with your significant other.

Start With Laughter

Think of things that make the two of you laugh. When was the last time you shared that joyful and infectious energy with each other? If you can laugh at your own self and each other’s antics, even better. Don’t become too serious about everything in life. Remember things can change anytime. So accept the current situation and find something that the two of you can laugh about together. Sometimes simply watching a comedy on television together can help ease out the tension between the two of you.

Honestly is Truly the Best Policy

Being able to trust each other is vital for the health of your relationship. Make sure that you are always honest with your significant other. Express your true feelings with love and compassion, not in anger and frustration. The same things can be conveyed in different manners, chose your way wisely. Plus give your partner the opportunity to honestly share their feelings with you as well. A healthy relationship is never a one way street. Both of you need to be honest with each other, all the time. This is a must. It is just not negotiable any other way.

Communicate All the Time

In the day to day hassles of living, one forgets to communicate the more important aspects. Express your love each day in at least one way that your partner recognizes and acknowledge your appreciation when they do the same. Think about the triggers that set you off fighting and discuss them rationally. Try and find reasonable compromises for such issues so that it is not always a session of “he said…” and “she said…” Listen when the other person is speaking so that you understand where they are coming from on an issue.

Take Out Time for Romance

It is so easy to ignore romance, but it will really cost you the best part of your relationship if you do so. Do simple romantic things, make silly gestures, send love related messages, blow kisses in the hallway. Take the time to rekindle love with a date night at fixed intervals, monthly is good, weekly is even better. Make the time to connect intimately without the rest of the family intruding. Open up to each other about hopes and fears, share dreams, celebrate successes and work through failures. Take the time to romance your partner with flowers, chocolates, wine and food.

Affirmation – “ I am in a loving relationship filled with trust and respect.”

Love Yourself Enough to Count Your Blessings

Ever so often we get bogged down in all the things that seem to be going off track in our lives that it is simple to forget all the things that are going right. The truth is we forget to love ourselves, we forget that we have so much more to be thankful for than what seems to be going wrong. One of the easiest ways to remind yourself that you are truly blessed is to write down all the good things that happen to you every day in a Gratitude Journal. 

Making a Gratitude Journal

It does not have to be something very elaborate with a pretty cover and expensive to boot. It can be a regular yearly diary, a simple spiral notebook or even just a word document on your computer. A Gratitude Journal needs to be something that is full of positive words and thoughts and makes your heart lighten the minute you pick it up. The idea is to reiterate to yourself that you are blessed, that good things happen to you often and that you are in the flow of the universe. This helps you manifest better with the Law of Attraction as well.

What is a Blessing?

Now blessings may mean different things to different people, just as the definition of happiness and success changes from person to person. Here for the purpose of our Gratitude Journal we are merely going to write about anything that gives you a positive vibration. Write down all that you were grateful for at the end of the day. Write about things that made your day easier, or just appreciate a person or situation that helped you. Reread the journal every time you feel overwhelmed with life to see how much you have to be happy about.

Specific Areas to Focus on

There are a few areas that everyone has some amount of focus on and you should make regular entries in your Gratitude Journal about them. These may include your body and health, your family and close relations, your career progression, your financial growth, your spiritual or personal growth, your travel and fun activities. As always, these are just starting points and you can expand on these guidelines to include things that really matter to you. As you begin to write down your gratitude daily you will also begin to Heal Your Life without realizing that you are doing so.

Gratitude is a pillar of spirituality that you can never go wrong with. By acknowledging the good that happens to you daily, you are setting up vibrations to receive more good into your life in the future. So why not show true gratefulness for all that you have instead of comparing yourself and your material possessions with those of others around you who seem to have more. Become the positive vibe that people go to when they feel low to perk themselves up. As you motivate others to become a better version of themselves, you bless them as much as you bless yourself.

Affirmation: I express gratitude for all the wonderful things in my life and the great things that are coming my way.