Find Your True Self

 I recently read an absolutely riveting story about the Golden Buddha as retold by Nick Ortner. Some of you may be familiar with his work in the field of tapping also known as EFT. He is a coach and strong proponent for the tapping solution. Here’s how the story goes.

“Over 300 years ago, as a Burmese army planned an attack to invade Thailand (then called Siam), Siamese monks who were in possession of an enormous treasure, a solid gold Buddha that today would be valued at over 200 million dollars, made a decision.

To protect the Buddha from being plundered, they covered it in 12 inches of clay.  The Burmese attackers, thinking it worthless, ignored it but sadly killed the monks.  So for over 250 years, until the mid 1950’s, this Buddha existed only as a clay Buddha.

Then, when the Buddha was being moved to a new location by a crane, it began to crack - they didn’t expect it to be so heavy.   The monks set it down, waiting for a bigger crane the next day, and covered it with a tarp to protect it from the rains.

One monk, in the middle of the night, came to check that the tarps were staying on and saw a reflection, a glimmer in the crack.  He carefully chiseled away around the crack as the glimmer grew...And then…as the clay fell away...a solid gold Buddha shone once again for the world to marvel at.”

This story got me thinking about how we often only see ourselves as a Clay Buddha because that’s all the people around us have ever told us we are. What if we dug into our core and found that we were indeed a Golden Buddha?

Just as much as you can find out about other people by speaking with them about their lives, their interests, their dreams and hopes, you can do the same for your own self. It is important to talk with yourself to find out exactly who you are.

 Mirror work is a great tool to do this. Spending some time in front of the mirror each day telling yourself what you want to do, what you are grateful for, what you find challenging, can indeed make a huge difference in the quality of your life.

It is a simple but powerful tool. Most of us are well aware of it, and yet we don’t make it an everyday practice. Why are we so convinced that we can do it anytime we want to, but never seem to find the time to actually do it? Why are we so scared to look inside?

Are we worried that maybe one day we may look in the mirror and after hoping to see the clay around us crack and wash away, we will still not find the golden heart inside? Or are we just so scared that we may really be solid gold and would not know what to do with that revelation?!

Love Yourself and Love Your Partner

With Valentine’s Day being a part of the month, it is only natural that the focus is on creating an even better version of your relationship with your partner. No matter if you are already in a good place, things can always improve. Or if you are struggling with some conflict, you can use these tips and tricks to ensure that you begin to love yourself and in doing so also love your partner even more. As always intention is the key when you begin to manifest with the Law of Attraction, and your intention is very clear – to enhance your relationship with your significant other.

Start With Laughter

Think of things that make the two of you laugh. When was the last time you shared that joyful and infectious energy with each other? If you can laugh at your own self and each other’s antics, even better. Don’t become too serious about everything in life. Remember things can change anytime. So accept the current situation and find something that the two of you can laugh about together. Sometimes simply watching a comedy on television together can help ease out the tension between the two of you.

Honestly is Truly the Best Policy

Being able to trust each other is vital for the health of your relationship. Make sure that you are always honest with your significant other. Express your true feelings with love and compassion, not in anger and frustration. The same things can be conveyed in different manners, chose your way wisely. Plus give your partner the opportunity to honestly share their feelings with you as well. A healthy relationship is never a one way street. Both of you need to be honest with each other, all the time. This is a must. It is just not negotiable any other way.

Communicate All the Time

In the day to day hassles of living, one forgets to communicate the more important aspects. Express your love each day in at least one way that your partner recognizes and acknowledge your appreciation when they do the same. Think about the triggers that set you off fighting and discuss them rationally. Try and find reasonable compromises for such issues so that it is not always a session of “he said…” and “she said…” Listen when the other person is speaking so that you understand where they are coming from on an issue.

Take Out Time for Romance

It is so easy to ignore romance, but it will really cost you the best part of your relationship if you do so. Do simple romantic things, make silly gestures, send love related messages, blow kisses in the hallway. Take the time to rekindle love with a date night at fixed intervals, monthly is good, weekly is even better. Make the time to connect intimately without the rest of the family intruding. Open up to each other about hopes and fears, share dreams, celebrate successes and work through failures. Take the time to romance your partner with flowers, chocolates, wine and food.

Affirmation – “ I am in a loving relationship filled with trust and respect.”

Simple Strategies to Boost Your Relationships

One of the most talked about issues that people would like to improve is relationships. Sometimes its intimate and close relations like that of spouse, parents, children, et al can do with improvements. Our relationships are an important part of how we define and see our own selves.  When we have happy, healthy, nurturing relationships our lives are more enriched and filled with satisfaction. Here are some simple strategies that can be used to boost any relationship. 

Appreciation

By simply acknowledging the fact that you appreciate some quality, trait, behaviour pattern, or action taken by a loved one, you are on the path top generating a very positive relationship with them.  If you create a pattern of appreciation and gratitude it promotes more positive interactions between the two of you.  Think how much you would enjoy being appreciated for each little think you do for a loved one, and begin to appreciate the little things that they do for you.

Understanding

There is nothing a person wants more than to be understood. Are you constantly being annoyed by your loved one. By listening to your loved one’s rational and reasons for certain behaviours, you will be able to put away your irritations. Think of how many times you have said the words, “I don’t understand why you thought doing this would help.” Or “What did you think you were doing?” Simple communication helps in understanding a person.

Acceptance

The next step is of course to accept what your loved one does. Once you understand why they behave in a certain manner, you may not always agree with them. Still you need to accept that it is the way they act because it is the way they need to. This acceptance of a person goes a long way in establishing a loving and trust filled bond.

Nurturing

It is not enough to merely be a by stander. Once you have accepted the person, you must also put some time and effort into developing a stronger relationship with them. You need to nurture a relationship with a person just as you would nourish a plant you are growing with sunlight and water. Not to mention the occasional serving of fertilizer. Yes, you quite literally have to put up with some BS to nurture the relationship.

Repairing

As with every aspect of our lives sometimes things will go wrong, get broken or fall apart. That’s where you need to step up and begin repairing the damage done to the relationship. It takes two to play ball but if you can learn to forgive, get rid of your ego and be willing to give it a shot, so will the other person.

Growing Together

Both parties will make mistakes, but both also have the option of learning from said mistakes and making the relationship bond stronger. Remember what we create within is mirrored in our existence. So learn and grow together. Figure out what works for the two of you. Each relationship is unique and you have to figure out the best way to keep things on an even keel.

Affirmation – “All my relationships are filled with love, trust and mutual respect.”