Making Sense of Toxic Relationships

We are all nice people. We like to think that we mean no harm to anyone around us, so we get puzzled and bewildered when someone in our circle is belligerent and rude. In each relationship all we wish to do is be heard, understood and appreciated. Unfortunately we are very often disappointed in the way some people respond to us.  We end up wondering why such toxic people are part of our lives. No one in their right minds will attract such people, so it falls to reason that we need to do something to fix our mindset.

Your Relationships are a Reflection of Your Beliefs

Do you have a poor self image of yourself? Do you feel that you are not deserving of what a perfect relationship is defined by? Everything in your life is a direct manifestation of your own thoughts. You may say that you cannot control the behavior of so and so person, but in truth you do. That person is reacting to you the way you have willed them to react. We don’t take responsibility for what we have done. We give away our power and pretend that we never had it in the first place. Sometimes we even enjoy playing a victim. You need to accept that every relationship that you find toxic is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself in context with the specific person.

Create the Perfect Relationship with Yourself to Manifest it with Others

The idea behind having perfect relationships with everyone else is to ensure that you have a perfect relationship with yourself. If you find forging relationships frustrating, challenging and heartbreaking, perhaps you do not understand what you are looking for yourself. When you understand and love yourself, you are in a better position to figure out your fears.  Only then can you accept yourself unconditionally and then move on to accepting others in your life. Everyone who comes into your life with a challenging relationship is there to teach you something new about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses.  

Take Back the Power to Create Your Perfect Relationships

As you think, so it shall be. No one but you are to praise for your perfect relationships and no one but you are to blame for your toxic relationships. If you accept the good in yourself you will also attract good people, but till you resolve your issues of fear, anger and frustration, you will continue to attract people who raise these issues for you all though the relationship. The power to love yourself is in your own hands. Unconditional love for yourself will result in the Law of Attraction bringing you relationships with people who give you unconditional love as well. Reclaim the power to make your toxic relationships terminate. Instead begin fresh relationships with these same people coming from a space of love and light.

Affirm to yourself: “I give and receive love, joy and respect in all my relationships.”