Are You Feeling Unappreciated?

Each of us relies on other people in our lives to help us feel loved, wanted and appreciated. We wait for others to heal our lives. Unfortunately in many cases we feel that the other person in the relationship is not appreciating the effort and actions we take. This results in a little pity party that we invite ourselves to. Here we begin to feel bad for ourselves and start blaming the other person for not doing more than they already do. 

This is where the downwards emotional spiral begins. To stem this emotional whirlpool you need to take charge of your emotions. This is the point you need to check in consciously and ask yourself, if I am unhappy with the way things are right now what can I do to change them? Here is a simple exercise to help you find a balance in your relationships. 

Creative Visualization

When you have some free time sit down peacefully and close your eyes. Now concentrate on your breathing till you feel calm and settled. From this seat of peace and tranquility think of the person who does not seem to appreciate you the way you wish to be appreciated. Think about the last situation involving this person that caused you to get upset. Feel the emotions that swept through you, acknowledge them, and ask them to leave your energy system.

Now think about different ways that you could have handled this situation where the end results would be you feeling happy and loved. Think of the words that you and the other person could have spoken. Create actions that you could have taken and imagine what reactions the other person would have had. You can use this for more than one situation or person. Use this visualization as often as you like, just consciously move from negative to positive energy.

Understand that Perfection is a Myth

Very often we get influenced by media blasted images of true love, and perfect relationships. These unnaturally happy images in our head make us feel that our current relationships are not good. Each individual is flawed, yes you are not perfect either. Then how can you expect a relationship involving two people to be perfect all the time. There will be ups and downs in the relationship based on what each individual is going through in their personal lives.

Accept that life is constantly changing and that we can never hope to have absolute control over anything but our own reactions. Change the reactions you give to others and the way they feel about you will also change. So be the difference you want to see. If you want others to appreciate you, tell them that you love it when they do something and  appreciate it. No one is out to vindictively spoil your day by not appreciating the food you cooked, the work report you submitted or the gift you gave someone. 

When you do something nice for a person, smile and send out positive energy to them. Then you can receive the same positive energy back from the universe multiplied many times. So if you want to be appreciated by others, start appreciating them first. The rest will follow as naturally as the Law of Attraction works its magic into your life.