I’m Not Ready Yet

Is that your excuse for not doing what you want to do? Let me tell you something, you are never ready for what you really, truly want to do. There will always be less money than you feel comfortable with, less time than what you need to prepare, and less support than what you would ideally like in your life. That should not stop you from reaching out with both hands for what you know you really want. Be it a career move, or a relationship crisis, no problem is solved if you take the stance – I’m not ready to confront this situation yet.

Finding Your Courage

Confidence is not something I lack in when it comes to doing things that I have rehearsed and perfected. However if I have to do something impromptu, I will most likely freeze and fall on my face, literally! The trick is to find your courage by picking up a routine that helps you to feel better prepared for the big change that you are trying to bring about. Pick your goal, then pick it apart. List the steps that you will need to complete to reach the ultimate plan. Are you trying to write a novel? Begin writing at least 500 words a day, it will surprise you how quickly you gain confidence in your ability to write.

Stepping Up to Do the Deed

There is a tendency to start out well and then just as things start rolling onto a bigger, better path to shut down. The fears that hold you in place are also natural. You know you are fated for something better but that will only come with the price of a distinct change. This means that you are not sure if you want to pay the price and shake up your old life to create the new one which you claim to say you want. A blueprint may be perfect but till the bricks and mortar take shape you really don’t get a feel of the actual building. Till you begin building, you will have no idea what you can achieve.

Finding Your Peace

It’s when you know that you are not yet ready completely, but that this opportunity will never come back that you finally take that leap. That leap of faith that puts your trust in your own talent, passion and skill. That allows you to think that no matter what gets thrown out at you, you will be able to handle it. When you finally manage to conquer that fear with your skill, that is when you will be rewarded with success and peace of mind. No one says it is an easy journey, and the toughest opponent you will face will be your own self doubt. Just keep on going and eventually you will find your peace.

Use these affirmations to keep your head in the game. Affirmations help keep you on track even as you invoke the Law of Attraction. “I am ready for my success now. I achieve the goals I set easily and effortlessly.”

Doing the Important Things First

The Important Vs Urgent debate has been given quite an airing recently. Things that are urgent and need to be done right now, may not always be the things that are important for you to do. Pretty much everyone has a busy and hectic schedule these days. From officer executive to housewife, or school kid to college student. No one has time to spare. This means it is important for us to make sure that we utilize the time we have at our disposal wisely.

Identify the Uppers and Downers

There are some things you do in the day that raise your energy levels and make you better prepared to handle your time. These are called “Uppers”. They could include a walk in the morning, a break for a nap after lunch and even some mirror work when you are feeling low. Then there are things that literally seem to suck all the energy and time out of your life. These are the “Downers” which can include having to deal with constant interruptions at work from colleagues, or speaking to a relative who is very demanding or even trying to meet a deadline without taking a break to rejuvenate yourself.

Recognize the Urgent but Unimportant for the Triviality it is

There are some things that need to be done right away and can be termed as urgent. However the more important ones are not always urgent. Don’t waste your time chasing trivial tasks that seem extremely urgent but get you nowhere in the larger scheme of things. Get clear on what you would like to accomplish each day. Have small goals that you need to meet so that you know that you are not wasting your time chasing shadows. Know what is the important stuff you need to handle and break up large projects into smaller tasks that can be done each day.

Take Action on Important Stuff Without Procrastination 

Once you are clear about where you are headed in the long run, you will be able to compartmentalize the Important vs the Urgent tasks that get thrown at you throughout the day. Current challenges that seem unrealistic can become a whole lot more manageable if you start doing the important things first. Don’t do the easy stuff first and wait to do the more difficult things when you have more time to concentrate on it. Start with the difficult things that you know need to be done.  Eliminate the self doubt that makes you push it to the back and feed your belief in your own abilities.

Affirmation : I live in a loving, abundant and harmonious universe and I am grateful. Everything I need for my success is brought to me now.

Identify Your Patterns

Life is characterized with habits and patterns. You do something and expect something to happen in return. For instance, when the gardener sows a seed he knows that a seedling will burst forth from the ground after the requisite amount of time if he continues to water the soil and keep it moist. The baker knows that when yeast is added to the dough, the dough will double in size if left alone to ferment overnight and make the bread softer. The orchard owner knows that if he does not pluck the flowers of the tree, he will get to harvest the delicious fruit that is sure to form in just a few weeks time.

 Patterns and habits such as these exist everywhere around us. In the natural environment for sure and in the human world as well. For instance if the children make too much noise, mother will shout at them to tone it down. If a brother cut the hair of his sister’s  favourite doll, she will make sure that his favourite action figure loses its weapon, or some other form or retribution is sure to be forthcoming. If the boss seems unhappy, it is not the best time to present him with the plans for the office picnic because he is sure to refuse it in his present frame of mind. If your friend is feeling unhappy because she broke up with her boyfriend, you are going to take her out and feed her ice cream, or maybe take her out to a movie to make her feel better. 

These are easy patterns that lead you to form habits, but there are some patterns that you are unaware of.  There are some patterns in your life that may not always be in your best interest. For instance never speaking up when a family member bothers you by saying something, just to keep the peace. Trying not to be confrontational even when you know that you are in the right and the other person is in the wrong. Believing that you need to work very hard indeed to attain any measure of financial success. Sabotaging your own goals of weight loss and fitness by over eating or not exercising enough. These are behaviour patterns which do not work for your highest good, but you have them all the same.

They may arise from a number of limiting beliefs that you may have. The trouble is that till you identify your life’s patterns you are not going to be able to identify the limiting beliefs behind them. And a belief is merely a well entrenched thought. No matter how deep rooted a belief may be, it is just a thought which can be changed. By replacing the old limiting belief with a new positively charged affirmation it is possible to literally change the pattern of your life. All you need to begin with is to identify the existing patterns in what you see going wrong in your life. Think about it, what seems to never go right in your life? Now identify the pattern to get to that particular limiting belief.